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A Glimpse of Self Love

Posted in Uncategorized, inspirational, self help, new age, love, anger management, relationships, originist, self judgement, self love on Sep 23rd, 2007 No Comments »

Are you scared to love me? Does it show that I am scared to love you? Maybe it is because I don’t know how to love me either?

I have been trying to figure out how to love myself for many years now I still am not sure what that looks like to say, I love me, I love you too

When I don’t love me the most I get scared that you won’t love me either When I love me the most I know you will be with me forever

I use to think of loving myself as selfish Then I use to think it was all in my ego to do that Then I realized when I was happy inside, selfish and ego weren’t an issue That I just wanted to spend time with you because I love you Again when I was happy

And then I wake up and I am not so sure how I feel And I take it out on you Accusing you of things that were OK the day before I found out when I am not happy, you will not be happy with me either As I try to take it out on you so I don’t have to face me

How do I love me? So that I can love you I was sitting on the floor one morning On my way to an important meeting And across from me was a mirror

I took a quick glance only to see myself sitting on the floor tying my shoe When I looked up, I didn’t see me, I saw a person, sitting on the floor, tying their shoe It was a weird moment, however I realized I WAS a person I stared at myself from a distance I realized I looked like the people I see, not the person I know

I started talking to myself I told myself, You have a big meeting today, I wish you well

When I said that I started to cry It felt so good to care about me Like the words of a dear friend I continued talking

As I cried, I said, I am going to take care of you my friend I am your friend I see you wake up everyday, rush to get ready, Yet I realized I never really see you at all

I am sorry I never looked I judge you so harshly And you are just making a way for yourself, What ever that is

I promise to do right by you From this moment forward I will understand when you don’t think you have done well that you have done your best And I also promise not to hurt you more with the words in my head that take away from me I will remind myself that you did your best and maybe it was not meant to be for you

I also promise that when things are going great to let you enjoy those moments for what they are A part of life that keeps you motivated to do the rest of it And I will remind myself that every purpose has a challenge and every challenge has a purpose And that we are a team, My Heart, My Soul and My Mind

I will do right by you, I will not let myself forget that you care and that I care As my Heart and Soul spoke to my Mind I realized still that I am one, yet at times there feels like there are two of me One that loves and one that is harder on me than anyone I know

I sat on that floor and saw myself new that day I got up and left feeling like I have a partner within myself That I can be whole and awake to my actions That I can do right by myself

And with that, that I understand what it means to do right by others too They ARE me and I AM them Just as I have the voice in my head that either cheers me on or stops me in my tracks Joining myself with myself, Gives me the path to join myself with you I can love you more when I know what it feels like to love me more

Love can only propel once it knows that it is there

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Love’s Soulvation

Posted in Uncategorized, spirituality, inspirational, new age, love, self help, anger management, relationships on Sep 21st, 2007 No Comments »

You can’t know nice until you are nice You can’t know beautiful until you feel beautiful You aren’t happy for others until you feel happy yourself

You don’t see the effort of others until you put forth an effort yourself You won’t acknowledge anothers success until you have felt a sense of success yourself It’s hard to have appreciation for anything if you never had to live without it

We can not know how it is to starve when we can’t decide what to eat We can not see a heart until we can feel our own We can not extend a hand, until a hand has been extended to us

When we know something, then we can share it We need examples from each other to see how effective it is to share who we are, what we feel If one of us does something, someone else immediately learns, feels, understands its worth

We are one, we hear this and hear it WE are one when it comes to respect To dignity To feel like someone notices That someone really cares

It grows our belief that everything has good in it That when we are angry and someone puts their hand on our back and says it will be OK That is better than virtual slaps on the face with words and gestures that do nothing but give us reasons to let go

Take your initial reaction to a situation And do the opposite Instead of saying You did this or that, said this or that Say, thank you for showing me what it feels like to take on your anger, You must really be mad, although it is not obvious why You are unkind to me, because you already feel it about somewhere else I know you don’t mean what you just said I am sorry you are having a bad day

It sounds like a lot to say, however it is not Think it, and it will come to the surface in your actions All you have to say in truth is, I know you don’t mean that Sometimes that is all you need to say

And leave it to the other person to find in themselves their own motivations and they can learn that, and have a moment to think about whatever it is in their heart That is being a teacher That is showing love when we don’t know if we can This is one way to do it This is one way to care

WE think we need to wait for a good day to do better No more wasting time Time is not relevant when it comes to love

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Silence is a Language

Posted in Uncategorized, spirituality, inspirational, new age, love, self help, anger management, relationships on Sep 16th, 2007 No Comments »

Once you have said your point, stop talking When you are in an argument, and you say why, stop talking Let the language of silence speak

When you want to tell someone how mad you are at them, Stop yourself and walk away Come back when you figure it out Minus the hurtful words that are never forgotten And the actual argument that is

It isn’t time anymore to see how much you can hurt another person It is time to realize that when that happens everyone gets hurt, not just the receiver That everyone pays, a price that is unspoken Since silence is the loudest language

Stop yourself and walk away Don’t participate in anger Strength comes from finding the love Understanding that you don’t want to fail And neither does the other person

Know that when you are angry it is when you are the most vulnerable And there is something that you did not get or understand Think in truth, if you are the other person and what is it that they actually want from you What would you want if your were to do that to someone And why

Go back with that information The better the information The greater the thought The higher the level of caring comes into play The better the exchange The more solvable the soulution

We look for everything that can clean, wipe away, and take care of everything we don’t want in life And I know we don’t want to live in anger The cleaner for Anger is how we learn to love and accept ourselves when we are not feeling our best Compassion is the buffer And understanding is the shine

Know when to stop And knowing when to stop Can only teach you where to start

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